https://tube.grossholtz.net/videos/watch/a520f8bb-40e1-481c-8451-08cbd1f9acc6 It lurks within, emerging in conversation to share ineffective, premature suggestions … it’s your advice monster, and we all have one, says writer and teacher Michael Bungay Stanier. He shares how giving advice can easily go astray, from solving the wrong problem to disempowering the very person you’re trying to help, and offers a simple question to help you stay curious, strengthen your relationships — and tame that monster. (Recorded at TEDxUniversityofNevada on February 29, 2020) If you love watching TED Talks like this one, become a TED Member to support our mission of spreading ideas: https://ted.com/membership Follow TED! X: https://twitter.com/TEDTalks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ted Facebook: https://facebook.com/TED LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/ted-conferences TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tedtoks The TED Talks channel features talks, performances and original series from the world's leading thinkers and doers. Subscribe to our channel for videos on Technology, Entertainment and Design — plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. Visit https://TED.com to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more. Watch more: https://go.ted.com/michaelbungaystanier https://youtu.be/5gVTwb3ebAI TED's videos may be used for non-commercial purposes under a Creative Commons License, Attribution–Non Commercial–No Derivatives (or the CC BY – NC – ND 4.0 International) and in accordance with our TED Talks Usage Policy: https://www.ted.com/about/our-organization/our-policies-terms/ted-talks-usage-policy. For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request at https://media-requests.ted.com #TED #TEDTalks #relationships Mon, 06 Apr 2026 03:18:51 GMT https://validator.w3.org/feed/docs/rss2.html PeerTube - https://tube.grossholtz.net https://tube.grossholtz.net/client/assets/images/icons/icon-512x512.png https://tube.grossholtz.net/videos/watch/a520f8bb-40e1-481c-8451-08cbd1f9acc6 All rights reserved, unless otherwise specified in the terms specified at https://tube.grossholtz.net/about and potential licenses granted by each content's rightholder.